By SAGUN BASNET
For quite some time, I’ve been planning to write this, and now, surprisingly, the time is right, especially when everywhere I go, I hear people talking about the cease-fire. The cease-fire topic has become inexhaustible today, as the insurgency and violence are.It is soothing to ears to hear, at least, that the conflicts between one Nepali to another and man are in the process of being resolved but at this moment, people like me wonder why mothers, sisters, wives and daughters have turned into ravaging monsters. Those people attempted to find peace through violent means, but did they get peace themselves? I would like to ask: Isn’t violence as detrimental to who cause it as the ones who experience it? Doesn’t violence lead them to battle fatigue, putting emotional and physical stress on them?
Somewhere in the fog of conflicting perceptions, I wonder the situation of those who are the makers but are untouched by the violence on one hand, and on the other, people are devastated by it. The people of both groups share the same sky, the same grounds and the same mountains.
Whatever the backgrounds, with the announcement of the ceasefire, superior brains is preparing for a well-built nation, where violence should find an outlet, not in slaughters but in subjugation.
Despite the attempts of such communications, my heart still beats faster for the families of makers and victims of war. These families are the ones who represent the real scenario. They have suddenly been left alone and are struggling with mixed emotions: Whether to be happy that no more people would be killed or mourn upon the deaths of their beloved.
This is a very sad state of affairs. We are demoralized, with our faiths in everything concerning “human” fragmented. Not only these people who have experienced violence in some ways, but people like me who live a normal life are also its victims. For the problem is all too national. The tragedy that has befallen our country is something we used to see in movies.
The rulers—the power hungry despots— the mob mechanism, looting, rioting, killing, burning, these words have haunted us so much in recent times that aggression has become a new household mantra. It is taught inside a family, when another child beats a child, his parents encourage him to reciprocate. The crisis has only led to clouded results, and people are even more confused about how to set things right.
Though the process of communication for resolving the problem is encouraging, it will take some years to heal the emotional scars inflicted by the seven years of insurgency.
We must realise that the onus of building our nation lies on us.
Posted in the Kathmandu Post in February 2002